{"id":15713,"date":"2007-02-27T04:37:00","date_gmt":"2007-02-27T09:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/hameblog\/2007\/02\/27\/growing-up\/"},"modified":"2025-09-12T07:49:46","modified_gmt":"2025-09-12T10:49:46","slug":"growing-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/2007\/02\/27\/growing-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Growing up"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I signed up for <a title=\"Facebook\" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/\">Facebook<\/a> at the suggestion of The Strategic Coach&#8217;s web programmer, who wanted me to check it out for a project we&#8217;re doing. It&#8217;s a &#8220;social networking&#8221; website &#8212; basically people chatting to groups of friends, based on a shared background. I&#8217;ve found ones for Dalhousie University&#8217;s theatre department, Charlottetown Rural High School, and even Forest Glade, my public school, which is still running and has a horrible circa-1997 website. Forest Glade, the subdivision (I really did grow up in &#8220;The Wonder Years&#8221;), also has a group of its own.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>Facebook started off as a college project, so the members tend to be young; I&#8217;ve not found anyone from Dal, the Rural, or Forest Glade of my generation yet. But in the subdivision&#8217;s group, someone posted pictures of the urban ruins of the old Easttown Plaza. This was where my family went grocery shopping at the N&amp;D. The poster also included a picture of the abandoned Woolco.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" title=\"Windsor ruins\" alt=\"Windsor ruins\" src=\"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-content\/uploads\/posts\/982\/growing-up0.jpg.webp\"><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>I remember going to that Woolco, and Mom buying me a treat one day because I&#8217;d been a good boy while we were shopping. It was a pivotal moment, actually, which several friends will recognise, because this has become a story in my life called &#8220;<strong>The Puppy Puzzle&#8221;<\/strong>. It goes like this:<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>When I was about four, Mom (&#8220;Mommy&#8221; in those days) and I went out shopping. We were out for a long time, but I was quiet and well-behaved. So as we passed a display piled high with boxes of puzzles, Mom stopped and told me I could have any puzzle I wanted. Wow!<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>I agonised over the decision &#8212; which one? I finally narrowed it down to two: One box featured a oil-painting illustration of a cartoon puppy, grey, with <em>huge<\/em> loving eyes (very Seventies, likely also the era of the &#8220;crying clown&#8221; paintings). The other box, though, had <em>three<\/em> puzzles in it. They were solid colours &#8212; red, yellow, blue &#8212; making up a sailboat, a drum, and a soldier. I decided that it made more sense to get the one with more puzzles in it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>When we got home, I ran with my box of puzzles down to the &#8220;crawlspace&#8221; in our basement (a weird storage area that grown-ups would bump their heads in, but made for a great play-area for my brother and I, and was a frighteningly dark place for sleepovers). I sat on the old green patterned rug that was laid over the bumpy concrete, and I took out my puzzles. I opened the box, looked inside, and I cried: <em>I wanted the puppy puzzle.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&lt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>p&gt;<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>This stuck with me, and I trust you to infer the lesson I took from it. I&#8217;m pretty convinced this experience has informed a lot of my subsequent decisions in life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<div class=\"blogger-post-footer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" src=\"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-content\/uploads\/posts\/982\/growing-up1.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\"><\/div><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I signed up for Facebook at the suggestion of The Strategic Coach&#8217;s web programmer, who wanted me to check it out for a project we&#8217;re doing. It&#8217;s a &#8220;social networking&#8221; website &#8212; basically people chatting to groups of friends, based on a shared background. I&#8217;ve found ones for Dalhousie University&#8217;s theatre department, Charlottetown Rural High [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15713","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15713","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15713"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15713\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15713"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15713"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15713"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}