{"id":14982,"date":"2018-08-10T20:48:00","date_gmt":"2018-08-11T00:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/hameblog\/2018\/08\/10\/oh-dear-diary\/"},"modified":"2025-09-12T07:50:32","modified_gmt":"2025-09-12T10:50:32","slug":"oh-dear-diary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/2018\/08\/10\/oh-dear-diary\/","title":{"rendered":"Oh Dear Diary"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"comic<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

“Nice” gets a bad rap. Perhaps the harshest thing I’ve heard said about it is “If you can’t be interesting, be nice<\/em>.”<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

But that’s a false dichotomy — a close neighbour to the awful, awful notion that you need to be a tortured soul to be creative.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

I saw the best refutation of that the other night when Craig and I watched the brilliant Hannah Gadsby: Nanette<\/a><\/em> — a stand-up comedy routine that suddenly transforms mid-way into a transformative, game-changing piece of non-fiction theatre.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

Back to nice<\/em>: Is there any quality the world is missing right now more than nice?<\/em> Niceness doesn’t even require empathy; it just demands that you get over yourself enough to think for a second about the person in front of you.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

Why? Just because!<\/em> Because that’s the right thing to do — and if we all made the effort to do it, the world would be a much better, more functional place.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

So thank you, Mom, for the gift of nice<\/em> that you embedded into my personality — even if there are lapses in my considerateness like this one. I think so many of the advantages I’ve enjoyed in life are simply because I have a conscience about other people.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

There are also many things I like about you that are just intrinsically you<\/em>, and aren’t about me!<\/p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Nice” gets a bad rap. Perhaps the harshest thing I’ve heard said about it is “If you can’t be interesting, be nice.” But that’s a false dichotomy — a close neighbour to the awful, awful notion that you need to be a tortured soul to be creative. I saw the best refutation of that the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14982","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14982","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14982"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14982\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14982"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14982"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hame.ink\/blether\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14982"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}